Feel comfortable taking up space in your relationships.
Relationship Counseling Seattle
Individual Relationship Guidance for People-pleasers (not couples counseling)
If you don’t feel important in your relationships, it’s time to do something about that.
When you text your friends but don’t hear back immediately, you wonder “Do they secretly hate me?” When you ask your partner to spend time together and they either don’t appear enthusiastic or have a contemplative look on their face, you think “I’m a burden for even asking.” Neither of these negative thoughts are likely true, but you’ve become accustomed to assuming someone’s intent, body language, and lack of communication, so you fill in the blanks without actually confirming their thoughts or feelings.
Maybe your friends are zoning out in front of the tv or put their phone down to do the dishes. Maybe your partner is assessing what they need to do this weekend or, and hear me out, that’s just their face. Attaching meaning to someone’s behaviors without gathering more information may be causing miscommunications in your relationships. By you not voicing your needs or feelings, you’re not taking up space in your relationships and you’re not teaching your loved ones how to best support you - leaving you feeling like a burden for having relationship needs at all.
You’re not a burden, you’ve just been made to believe you are…
Relationship counseling Seattle is the right fit for you if:
You’re looking for relationship guidance for yourself - not couples counseling
You struggle to voice your needs or feelings with your loved ones
You worry that people secretly hate you
You don’t know how to set relationship boundaries
You’re needing different relationship dynamics but don’t know how to change them
You’re not sure you want to be with your partner anymore
You feel guilt and shame in your relationships
Does this sound like you? Then you’re in the right place. I’ll support and guide you through healing childhood wounds and social messaging that likely caused the belief that you’re a burden, while navigating ways to take up more space in your relationships and set boundaries. You’ll know therapy is working when you can set boundaries with minimal guilt, feel more connected to your loved ones, and worry less about existing.
WHAT WE’LL DO TOGETHER
Relationship counseling Seattle can help you:
Identify relationship wounds
It’s highly possible your fears of being a burden in relationships stems from childhood and social messaging. We will explore where your fears and beliefs stem from and ways to change and heal from them. This will allow you to grow confident in your relationship needs and communicate them directly.
Prioritize your needs
Learning how to prioritize your needs is a significant step toward having quality, long-lasting relationships. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, but when you can show up authentically and honestly in your relationships, you’ll feel better supported, fully listened to, and more connected to your loved ones.
Build closer connections
The ultimate goal is to create relationships with people who can respect and support you in the ways you need. It’s about learning to speak up, compromise, and work together to have a long-lasting relationships. Boundaries and communication tools will help you sustain this.
Common questions about relationship counseling Seattle:
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Absolutely! Counseling helps get to the root of your behaviors in relationships that may be impacting how you connect, set boundaries, and communicate in them. Counseling offers tools for repairing conflict in current relationships and tools for building new community.
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I offer relationship counseling for individual clients because not all relationships that need support are a fit for couples counseling. Clients often struggle with friendships, siblings, coworkers, etc and these relationships are not being worked on in couples counseling.
Individual relationship guidance provides therapy tools that you then share with any important person in your life and work to shift or repair that relationship.